ProdPod: Episode 66 — “Pull Method” to More Productive Relationships, Analyzing and Synthesizing Relationship Data

In Episodes 53 and 54, I gave a brief overview of my “Pull Method” for more productive relationships. And, in the last episode I discussed Collecting Data for More Productive Relationships. So, in this episode, I am covering some thoughts and questions on analysis and synthesis of productive relationship data.

As part of a regular review, perhaps monthly, you should review your major relationship events I discussed in Episode 65 and review the emotions triggered by them. I recommend that you not have more than three emotions for each positive and negative event. I have seen a steep rate of diminishing return by the third emotion for any particular event.

Next, some questions…

Are you seeing any patterns you should address with a specific person? Are you seeing a pattern across all your major relationships? Perhaps something is occurring in your life which is causing these positive or negative patterns. What can you do to increase the opportunities of more positive events, and what can you do to mitigate the unhealthy patterns?

A few questions to also ponder from Episode 54: what is the ratio of must-have relationships to those positive relationship events you’re experiencing? Are there more not-good than feel-good contacts in your dossier system? Does the happiness of the people you listed correlate to your relative happiness in life?

I’ll close with this…

Have perspective that your data collection and analysis is very subjective; so, where I would normally tell you that data doesn’t lie, in this case, it can be very misleading if you collect solely with your emotional mind and analyze and synthesize exclusively with your logical mind. Consistent tracking and balanced perspectives will not lead you in a wrong direction.
 
A fun project is to take the ten closest friends in your life, add up their annual salaries and take the modal average. Does it look familiar?